A lot of times good people figure out at some point that they just do not work well together as a couple. That is not a negative mark on either one of them. They are simply incompatible with one another. A lot of times, too, this realization does not occur to either one of them until after they have started a family and are parents. The hard truth that your marriage is not working and that a divorce is imminent can create a range of emotions for anyone going through that phase of their life. Too often, though, it can cause otherwise good people to make poor decisions.
When parents are involved in litigation over their children (i.e., custody and visitation), that can sometimes bring out the worst side of people. Parents should never use their children as a means of “getting back at” their former lover or soon to be former spouse. Parents should never pit their children against the other parent, or speak negatively about the other parent to their children. These points should go without saying, but it happens frequently enough in the family courts here in South Carolina that it has to be stated.
If two litigants step into the trial of their litigation and either one of them has conducted themselves in the manner described above, then the odds are against that parent being awarded custody. If the other parent maintained a proper level of communication with the other parent throughout the litigation, and was cooperative with them in matters involving the children, then odds just got a lot worse for the other parent. Promoting the other parent’s role to the children, and continuing to support their relationship with the children is only going to help both parents (in the long run), their children (both presently and in the long run), and the litigant (the parent promoting and supporting) in presenting their case for custody at a trial in the family court.